Your spouse is usually playing himself or herself. Ask yourself if your spouse was helpful or harmful or benign in the dream.
If they are benign then your dream is telling you they are not able to help you with your current situation in waking life. It is something you need to do on our own.
If they are helpful then ask yourself how in real life the two of you are (or should be) working together to accomplish something.
If they are harmful to you then ask yourself how your spouse is working against you in waking life. Once you figure it out, it may be time to discuss this issue (without pointing fingers!).